I would say number one, stop talking to this girl and stop listening to her. She sounds like a grade A c*nt who enjoys putting other people down to try and build herself up. Pathetic. I guarantee you that her life is far from perfect, or she wouldn't feel the need to do that. As for the guys, I would suspect that it's actually the other way around, that they were not worthy of being with you. Guys can tell when a girl really wants a bf, and it can scare them off sometimes if they are not ready for that. Don't make yourself too available to guys and don't put your feelings all out there right away. Work on your confidence and you will be amazed how many guys will be into you, because confidence and a sense of humor are sexy to most people. I think that you should only surround yourself with people that make you feel good about yourself and consider some counselling to work on your self esteem issues. Good luck.

"We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world." Buddha

So, I have actually been struggling with this thought myself lately. A couple of months ago, I realized that I had created a lot of "goals" for myself when I was young - and that I hadn't really met them yet. And, when I looked back on what they were, I realized they were all centered around getting married and having children. It is something that I knew I always wanted. But, at this point in my life, I think I have been holding back on other things (career especially) thinking that one day I would have kids and everything would change. But, I am 31 and I don't have kids or a husband. Who knows if this is in the cards for me ever? I do have a boyfriend I love, but I don't really know what is going to happen with us. And it is TIRING to think about it all the time.

What I have decided to do is to release myself from that being the only way I can find happiness. Of course I want to be with someone I love, but maybe it isn't the only path I could take. I started looking at my life the way it is now and thought that if I am living the same life in 15 years, I wouldn't be proud of myself. So, I started making changes and thinking about what would make me happy and proud of myself, regardless if I get married or have kids.

This may be obvious to a lot of posters on here, but I really had to make an mental shift. The moment I decided to focus on myself (and not whether I wanted to marry my boyfriend or he wanted to marry me...), I felt a millions pounds lifted from my shoulder. And, my relationship got better - it is a lot less forced. (Although, I did have to cry for three days first.)

So, I don't know if this will help you. I just wanted to share my journey in case you see some similarities in it.

No, it's not old. Heck, I'm 31 and I don't feel old.

The main question is, do you feel old? If so, what makes you feel old? Do you feel that your life is stagnant? Do you need a man or be married with kids to be happy? Stop putting your happiness in the hands of guys even the ones you really like, take control and do it yourself.

Please do yourself a favor and ignore that girl and don't put your life in question just because of her comments. If you think something needs to change, or if you want to 'break out' and do something different, just do it. Do things that make you happiest, darlin'.

This is super funny, but I'm almost jealous of you. The best thing about being single and having no one to 'tie you down' is having all these opportunities to go out there and do things you're passionate about.

I had to quit my job and be a stay-at-home mom who freelanced in writing (discussed this w/ hubby and financially it was the better, more practical solution) to a little boy. Yes, he's adorable and I love him much, but sometimes I want to be 'out there' and out of the 'mommy stuff.' There are times when I'm almost nuts because I felt stuck at home as much as I love my family. I wish I could've kept my job at my old office although it didn't pay much, it was something I was passionate about (of course hubby and I have been talking that after our son is in kindergarten, I should try again to get a job out of the house). I wish I could do stuffs like...be in Red Cross, travel, etc.
But that's (the traveling, etc) not going to happen until my kid is old enough to be independent, etc. Now I kind of know why my mom traveled almost all around the world by herself when I was in college LOL!

Good luck to you, ok. You may feel 'hopeless' but seriously, you have so much adventures ahead of you and the opportunities to pursue things you're passionate about and believe it or not, it's so much more hopeful than you can possibly think of. Have fun.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

I'm 29 and I've been thinking about turning 30 and wondering why I look at it as being old. I don't feel old or look old so after having a mini crisis I told myself to stfu and just live my life according to how I feel. I know it sounds silly but it happened.

30 is far from old so keep your chin up and don't associate with people who put you down in order to boost their own self-esteem.

I had a friend like that once. She used to live in LA and I was SOOOOOOO happy when she moved away. But while she was here she was a total nightmare. Always giving me back-handed compliments and slyly putting me down. Telling me that my clothes were lame (Whhhaaaaatt? I have fuggin amazing style and she dressed like a QVC host.), Telling me that I was chubby (when we were the same size: 6). Making fun of my hair. Making fun of me because I was 29 years old and still finishing up my undergrad degree.

And she was always just braggin up a storm about how amazing she was, how great her life was, how much money her boyfriend makes, how awesome her career is going. Needless to say it was all bullsh*t. She couldn't find a job out here in LA. Eventually she ran out of money, and had to crawl back to friggin Tampa. She ended packing all of her belongings into her crappy beater, and driving 2100 miles all by her lonesome. When she got back to her hometown, she moved into some semi-seedy neighborhood. And regarding her boyfriend whom she bragged about relentlessly in the past: I now know for a fact that he's a super alcoholic, and is sober for only the 8 hours a day in which he works. And a rumor started circulating around with some of the guys in town that she had given 5 people an STD. So much for her fabulous life.

You know how they say that living well is the best revenge? It's true. If you keep being a good person (while not taking any crap from anybody). Set some goals for yourself at tackle them one by one, there will come a time when your own little vampire friend will her fall on her 20-something @ss. And you'll be right there to watch and offer zero assistance.

In the meantime, I suggest yawing, texting, checking your watch, and excusing yourself and walking away mid-sentence while she talks. The bragging is boring. You don't have to put a pleasant look on your face and endure it any longer. She's no friend to you. You don't have to pretend to be interested, just be polite and tune her out. And no going out for goodbye drinks with that c*nt either. It'll be the most miserable night of your life. And no feeling bad for her if she starts crying because you don't like her anymore. People like this will use any trick in the book to get your attention. Ignore. Ignore. Ignore. MMMmmmmk?

Ugh, your co-worker sounds like an a$$hole.

I am 22 and I do not think 30 is old. For that matter, I do not think 40 is old or that 50 is old.

I will not give you any of that "age is how you feel" bullsh!t. You are what you are, but who cares? Your age is not written on your forehead.

You sound rather successful to me. Best of luck with your situation. Everything will work out.

The thing a lot of people hardly realize is that people don't ever really feel "old" all the time. Sure, when your back starts to take a turn for the worst and you're 50, you might say "damn, I'm getting old", but you also snap back out of it, and you just do the things you love. Ask an 80 year old if they feel 80, chances are, they will say no. I know many people and family members around that age, and they do stuff I can't do, and I am 22! There is a man I know, who is 92, literally just went into remission from cancer and roller blades 26 miles a day. He did that even when he had cancer!

30 is so not old. And when you're 30, you probably won't feel old. It's just 30. I mean, yes, it's a milestone, but it's not 100, when by that time, you're getting down to the wire. I think you should have just told that girl who criticizes you, that you are perfectly happy with who you are, how you are, and how old you are. You also love the fact that you don't find it necessary to do such a "young and childish" thing such as put another person down...especially based on something like age!

You're not a failure. People create their lives far before it happens, and that is a mistake. You don't need to marry by a certain age, find the job you love at a certain age, etc. In fact, getting what you want exactly when you want it sounds a tad bit boring to me. What do you do? Make yourself happy. It rests on your shoulders. You'd be surprised where the power of positive thinking can get you. Do what you always loved or wanted to do. What is stopping you?

Anyway, you're 30. Right now, you are alive, young and very far away from taking a dirt nap. Be grateful, and don't listen to the people who put you down for your age because they, themselves are having a hard time accepting that they are getting older too.

I said it before and I'll say it again. The average age of the first divorce in the US is 30. Any 25 year old who brags about how perfect her life is is making up for some serious problems she knows she has.

Relax, take your time, and you'll find the right guy.

Chances are, anyone who tells you how awesome they are is probably trying to baffle you with b/s. Thirty isn't old and old isn't bad... hello, vintage shopping? Fine wines? Anyway, why worry if other people think you're old? Or, for that matter, what other people have that you don't? I think the important thing for you to realize is that life is too short to worry and that you need to get busy living it in a way that is fulfilling to you. At the end of it all, do you think this 25 year old girl is going to care either way whether or not you got out of your life all that you wanted? No. The only one who will care, and who should care, is you. So don't worry about coming up with your own "brag story"... she's talking to hear someone glorify her life. You have plenty of time to find the right man and the right situation for yourself and I'm sure that when you do, you won't have to hire minstrels to sing songs of praise for you. Just keep your head up and don't lose focus!

31 old? youre kidding right? youre in the best time of your life. youre much more mature and settled than your 20s and you don't need a man to validate you and you sure as hell don't need to listen to your 25 year old coworker. shes not that much younger than you and don't let her bully you into believing she is. shes probably just as insecure as you are.

you should get out there and make many friends that share a common interest. get involved with activities that will allow you to meet people and you'll have fun doing it. don't try to push every friendship or meeting with a guy into more. you may be coming on too strong or seeming to be a little desperate which is a huuuge turn off and also it just puts more stress on you. take it easy and let things happen naturally and definitely don't worry about it.

In the words of Aaliyah, age ain't nothing but a number.

I turn 28 this year and am looking forward to 30.

It's natural to have anxiety about getting older. I did a lot to change my life for the better at the 29 -30 year mark too - like other posters.
You should:

It's natural to have anxiety about getting older. I did a lot to change my life for the better at the 29 -30 year mark too - like other posters.
You should:
1. Get new friends
2. Think about where you want to be in life and move toward that vision.

Good luck!

Well, I'm 34, single and got dumped by three guys in a row last year. Like you, they all came on strong at first then disappeared into thin air. To this day, I have no idea what happened with those guys and why they dumped me. But you know what? Eight months after all that nonsense took place, I actually feel good and could not care less about finding a boyfriend! I'm just doing my own thing, going out for bike rides, hanging out with friends and taking an art class that I really enjoy. It was REALLY hard for me for a while but I eventually realized that I wouldn't want to be with any of those guys anyway.
Don't worry about your co-worker. One day something bad will happen to her (like it does to everyone) and her life won't be as rosy sweet. Try to do things that you enjoy so that your self-esteem builds up and then when you feel better, maybe you can look for another job doing something different.

Your "friend" is an idiot. What, she thinks she is going to be in her twenties forever? There is a term a friend of mine uses..instead of twenty-something she says twenty-stupid, and this chick is it.

If we're lucky, we all will turn 30... some of us will get there before others, that's all. Remember, there are young people out there with chronic illnesses who would give anything to have a healthy body...be grateful for your health, no matter your age and enjoy your life.

Lose this "friend". Don't let some dumb f@ck 25 year old make you feel horrible about yourself, she doesn't deserve that power.