I am continually impressed how little my friends - if we can even call them that - care. I had to move back home after school, for financial reasons. I never really got to know any new people here, since my boyfriend was close, so I just went to see him on the weekends the entire school year. Since the semester ended and he graduated, he has moved away and we have ended things (things were bad for a long time, and when it came down to it, he doesn't love me - unrequited love is a b*tch), but the break-up was very adult, we both cried (don't get me wrong, it sucks, being without him, but I'm okay), I think that with time we could be friends, maybe someday more but I'm not really thinking about that right now. I also lost my second part-time job, which was more of a blow when I was with him because I was saving money to move down with him. A few job prospects have popped up on that front, and I might be finally getting out of here, so things are finally (FINALLY!) looking up.
So problem is this: I have, maybe, five or so friends here, and no matter how often I talk to all my school friends out-of-town, it's not enough. These friends are less than reliable, call me back occasionally, and cancel plans. It sucks. What I want to know is this: How do YOU make friends or find a date? What activities are good? Are bars legit? I don't really have enough money to join a gym and I am not currently in a big city with anything that's free - ever.
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Claudie Pierlot
You can try online dating sites (yes I know it sounds touchy, but it's practically the future now). Dating sites doesn't have to be all about dating, you could be friends there too men and women. I heard bars aren't that great, but what works for some, doesn't work for others, try it yourself. I don't really know much, it's really all about approach in my opinion. Finding people with common places in areas you would normally hang out.
One tip to something you mentioned. If you have family, keep them close, no matter what, one thing I've learned is friends will tend to be reliable and may desert you, there's nothing like family if you keep them very close. In the end, your friends will ditch you for their own family first as well.
1Get involved on a local political campaign or volunteer at the humane society.
2Try okcupid.com ... free dating and some decent people there. Otherwise just know that there are a ton of nice guys who go through the same thing. If you see someone who catches your eye at the bookstore or the supermarket just say hi. Guys love it when you say hi. If he smiles back strike up a conversation and you'll probably end up with a date. It's not any more complicated than that.
Remember: he's probably far more intimidated by you than you are of him.
The world is a nice place if you smile and say hello.
3Take a hint from the Real Housewives of New Jersey... don't be the drama everyone tries to avoid. Your post sounded really snarky... kind of like, "Woe is me, nobody I know is as good as I am!" Not trying to be judgmental, but you might want to think about the type of friend YOU have been to your "unreliable" friends. When I was in a terrible relationship, none of my friends wanted to hang out with me because all I ever did was complain about my boyfriend and ask for advice, which I never took. So I just wasn't fun to be around and as a result, nobody wanted to be around me. When I started to be a better friend, people wanted to hang out again. It's easy to blame other people, but it doesn't help when you're trying to meet new people to be hung up on drama.
That said, try free classes at community centers, volunteering, fitness clubs (not gyms, but groups) or something else that is free. Especially if you're trying to make new friends (and not boyfriends), you'll meet people with similar interests. Good luck!
4Lots of things in the world are free - notinthemood has some good ideas.
It's hard to find good friends. Don't get discouraged!
5How awkward. I've been there. Heck, I'm still there!
But I can tell you this: Even if you did
scrape up some money for the best of singles' matching sites, it's still a waste of money. Best thing is to wait for serendipity & just live your life. I may be taking the wrong road on
this but I'm tired of trying & just hoping I don't end up the Old Woman Who Lives in a Shoe! Good luck! 
6dont gibe up on the dating sites! i met my husband on one and 3 other married friends of ours have met on them!
volunteer at a womans shelter or a soup kitchen. you will meet people and be giving back.
7"give"
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