First of all, I wouldn't assume your bf lied and/or deceived you if you have no reason to think that other than this ring incident . Your bf could be the one that was lied to and deceived when he bought the ring.

What I would do is talk to your bf about it in a calm and not accusing way. Then just see how he reacts, you should know him well enough by now to tell if he is actually upset and thinks he was lied to, or if he fakes it and just acts upset because he already knew about it. Then just go from there.

Oh wow, what a sh*tty situation. Maybe he bought the friend from a person rather than a company, do you know where he bought it?

Casually tell him you think the fitting feels loose/ring too big or small --> ask him for the papers and tell him you want to go to the store and see what is causing the problem. Maybe the stone is loose, the prongs aren't tight (sorry if I'm using wrong terms.. I'm not extremely familiar with these terms)...

If he hands over the papers, he probably doesn't know. If he acts weird about it and says he'll take care of it, ask him if you can go along.. (you want to see the bands that they have or other jewelry in the store since you have gotten so many compliments on the ring!). If he still acts weird/hesitant, something is probably up.

bought the ring*

Damn girl that sucks... I would tell him the truth. You did nothing wrong, hopefully he did nothing wrong and you werent trying to be sneaky when you found out it was fake. He may have been taken advantage of and lets just pray he has a receipt just incase the jeweller tricked him into buying it without telling him the truth etc.

Tell your fiancee what happened and ask him where he bought it. He may come clean and confess but hopefully he was just duped too.

Good luck

"Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it"

^ good idea.

But I would just go ahead and tell him the guy that came to your work told you it was a fake rather than saying you think it's loose or something, and then ask for the papers and to go to the store. Just act right off the bat, like you think the store is at fault, not your bf. If he knew it wasn't real when he bought it, then he won't want you to go to the store, b/c he will know the store will just say, "um, you knew what it was when we sold it to you". And then he's busted. If he didn't know, he will be happy to go to the store with you to take some serious action against the store. So I would just go ahead and tell him why you really want to see papers/go to the store.

Oooops, good ideas ^ to brittb7 and fallen.

There's a slim chance HE was taken by whomever sold him the ring. There's a greater chance that he knew you wouldn't be happy with a small, real diamond he could afford, and that the only way to make you happy would be with a real big rock. Just because you both make good money doesn't mean he wants to drop thousands on a ring.

Haven't you seen the ring's certificate?

You need to be straightforward with him on this. Say, "Something strange happened today. Someone came in to work and noticed my ring and mentioned they thought it was a cubic zirconia. They checked it out and it is. I'm fine with that, I just wanted to make sure the person who sold it to you didn't tell you it was a diamond."

In the future, it's VERY easy to tell a CZ from a real diamond. CZs reflect a rainbow of colors on all the little angles, while diamonds reflect colorless light.

luisamapacha nailed it.

I'd say come clean. If you are spending the rest of your lives together, honest conversations have to happen along the way.

It's the thought that counts I guess? In any event, is this a deal breaker?

Just so no one crucifies me, I'll actually post a normal response. Yes yes, like other posters explained. Well he's probably the typical silly guy who has no clue what he's doing and got duped. Or he knew exactly what he was getting. *Shrug* Well, a cubic zirconia is a synthetic diamond, so he didn't completely lie. In any event, if the diamond matters that much to you, or finding out if he intentionally deceived you, then tell him what happened. Just don't make it seem like you only said yes because you thought it was real -_- or he'll pull the "you only love me for my money" card.

Unforgivable! If he knows it was a fake.

Jewellery is not important to me, but my fiance lying to me is.

Definately bring it up because if he is unaware, someone owes you a ring.

But I have to wonder what his reciept says. Hmmmmm.
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I would assume he got ripped off, until you know the truth. Obviously it needs to be brought to his attention. Try not to accuse him of anything. Whether he was aware of it or not, I'm sure he'll be pretty embarrassed. Hope he has a good excuse.

"Someone owes you a ring"? Wow Jinx, that's exactly the attitude that probably got her here in the first place. Is she with this guy for the bling and the big party, or because she loves him and wants to build a life with him?

What I meant was, if her fiance was ripped off at a jewellers, that jeweller owes them the ring he should have gotten, or reinbursement.
I already stated, for myself, jewellery is not important. But he shouldn't have been ripped off, or lied about it, whichever the case may be.

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talk to your fiancee. maybe he was deceived by the people he bought it from. it could be that because he was an inexperienced buyer they knew he wouldn't be able to tell the difference and also assumed that the person he was buying it for wouldn't either. i wouldn't jump to conclusions. tell him what the appraiser said and ask him if he was duped by the jewelry store. if he was then he needs to file a police report and take it back immediately. if he stumbles and makes excuses then he deceived you and thats something that you will have to make a decision about.

I have a friend that works in the diamond district in NYC and she has told me about what these jewelers do. they will replace stones with cubics or other synthetic gems to pass for diamonds and other gems of value and tell these unsuspecting and clueless buyers that they are getting a great deal. when people bring in their jewelry to be cleaned they will swap the stones as well. thats why you must always go to a reputable jewelry store and have EVERYTHING insured.

I'm calling BS on the boyfriend. He did this on purpose.

Let's pretend he was stupid enough to buy this from a shady dealer instead of a store. Wouldn't you do some homework before plunking down tens of thousands of dollars? YES, you would.

Either way, be honest, and watch his reaction closely. Come back and tell us how he responded.

I'm with pop...I like the boyfriend for this one.

Even if he IS innocent and was duped, you will need to have a discussion about finances before you get married...if he is so dumb he would pay thousands for a CZ without documentation, that is a red flag.

^Agreed that you should come back and tell us what happens.

ugh. divorce that *sshole! michelle xo

I just had the same thing happen to me... I went into a reputable store to just look at wedding bands and when the jeweler looked at my ring, he said you do know that this isn't real don't you? I told him that I was unaware. He could tell that I was shocked and very hurt. He told me that I need to let my fiance know in case he was cheated. I haven't said anything yet because I am trying to figure out how I want to handle this. I hate to say this but I have a gut feeling that he knows and it isn't the ring as much it is the deception. How can I trust someone that is starting out our marriage based on a lie? This is a man that has plenty of money and I really don't understand!