My boyfriend heard me in my sleep dreaming about having sex with another guy, and I even said his name out loud. I don't remember any of the dream, and when I got home from work the following day, my boyfriend was ready to break up with me and move out. The guy I dreamt about is someone I've had a crush on for little while now, and is a coworker of mine. The reason I probably have a huge crush on him is because I can talk to him about working out while my boyfriend just isn't into being healthy and exercising, mostly because he says he has no time to exercise as a result of working late. Lately, for me this has become a very important issue in my life, and I wish I could share it and being excited about it with my boyfriend instead of with someone else. Luckily, we talked it over, and I did tell him why I think I have a crush on this guy, and he forgave me. I don't think I would even forgive me. I do love him and want to be with him, but what does it mean when you have a hot and heavy dream like this? Am I forgivable?
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This is not your fault. No one can control what they dream, and I am pretty sure that almost everyone at some point in their relationship develops crushes on other members of the opposite sex, just most people probably wont admit it. The good thing is that you dont act on it, and realize that your partner is your partner and no matter how much you have in common with other people, are they as good to you and such as the person you are currently with. Attraction is just chemical so be careful not to act too much on attraction and crushes alone, because you could lose a valueable relationship with your partner for a relationship that has no substance but lots of steam.
1Dude that's ridiculous. There's no reason to feel guilty. I've and dreams of having sex with other women, and even had a lesbian dream, I dunno where the hell all of these random dreams came from (as none of them were my desires) but they happened. I mean seriously, I've even had violent dreams about hurting people, and that is the last thing I would ever do. Sometimes dreams make sense, sometimes they play on moods or emotions, and other times they're just random, or entertaining, it's like picking up a movie at random from the video store. It doesn't mean it should change your life. If you didn't act on w/e hormonal attractions to anyone else, I don't see what the problem is. You will be attracted to other people, sometimes in areas lacking in your own relationship, and sometimes just randomly. Stop feeling guilty. It's not like he came home to find you and your cowoker in bed together. Don't let him run down your self esteem. -_- There's a big difference between dreams and reality.
One you can control, and other
other is rather very difficult...unless you're a lucid dreamer.
2I constantly have sex dreams about other people. I had a very hot and heavy dream about this guy I saw before I met my fiancee, my fiancee and him did NOT get along at all and the guy was actually a really big jerk but less then a month ago I had a super hot sex dream about him. I also had a dream about mking otu with Robert Pattinson and in my dream I chose Robert Pattinson over my fiancee lol
If my man asks me i'll tell him about my dreams but he realizes, just like I do, that I have absolutely no control whatsoever about what I dream. It's f*cking stupid and ridiculous to get in a fight over a dream. It's a good thing that this has given you two a chance to talk about an important issue but really, you shouldnt feel guilty for the dream.
3How's this for sex dreams....Will Ferrell. Explicitly.
4Yeah, I was freaked thinking WTH is wrong with me????
Then I realized it's not me. I can't control what/who I'm dreaming about.
I've also had a dream about an old classmate of mine. He's cute, but there's no desire there for real.
Not if you consulted my dreams though.
There's absolutely no reason why you shouldn't be forgiven, but I can see why your boyfriend was a little freaked about it. But he forgave you. You'll be fine, it's perfectly normal. Just as long as your boyfriend keeps that in mind.
Forgive? LoL, the whole thing is silly. My when I was with my ex, she had dreams about me traveling the world having sex with women from France, England, Spain, Italy, Japan, and a whole bunch of other countries. I'm sure she couldn't control it, and well I couldn't control her dreams. It's not like I was doing those things or was going to. No REAL action was done, wth is there really to forgive here? It's like getting pissed at your boyfriend because you can read his mind and saw in there that he though some chick was hot. ~_^ ... XD, there's nothing to forgive, there's nothing done wrong...it's all silly lol.
5Good grief, it's not like you cheated! Odds are you were dreaming about this guy because of a connection you share with him but not your boyfriend. No big deal. If your boyfriend is that insecure, he has other issues.
6ilike to join this groob
7You did not physically cheat on your boyfriend so for him to want to move out of the home over it is childish. You had your nice looking co-worker on your mind along with many other stressful things. All that together mixed and you had the dream. It happens to millions of women I'm sure.
There is no reason for you to ask for forgiveness. You are not guilty of anything. You are stressed and want to talk more and do more physical things with your boyfriend. He should be the one feeling bad for making you feel this stressed.
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