keep in mind that its easier to have an orgasm without the penetration. It all starts with masturbation- once you figure out what works for you- you can apply it to sex. focus on the outside (probably tmi, but a vibrating pillow started me off)- not just on what I call the "pump method"- going in and out with no thought- which frankly has never done it for me.

You are 18. It's awfully early to be saying that you can't orgasm. I agree w/ bklyn girl to focus on the outside, and not to expect to come from penetration.

Definately figure out on your own what you like and what will make you cum. The others are right, you should start on the outside. Don't expect a guy to figure it out for you. You need to do it on your own. As for having an orgasm during sex, some women never do. I didn't until I was 28 which is how old I am now so give it time. Those detachable shower heads work great by the way.

You won't ever come just from a penis inside you. You need clitoral stimulation. Continue masturbating, you need to be able to orgasm by yourself first before you will ever be able to do it with a partner. I would suggest buying a clitoral stimulater such as a vibrating bullet or another good idea is buy a detachable shower head (like Hiding55 suggested), then put it on your clit until you come. Do you have access to a private hot tub or jetted tub? If so, put your clit up against the jet. Good times. Don't expect a guy to 'give you' an orgasm, learn to give yourself one first. Once you can have one on your own, let rub your clit the entire time you are having sex with a guy and try girl on top or reverse cowgirl, or doggy style. Or, find a guy who is talented at giving girls oral sex. You can also read some erotic literature to help you to get in the mood. I would suggest you read the book 'For Yourself' by Lonnie Garfield Barback, it has some good tips about this problem and how to masturbate. Have fun!

i have the same problem!! and i'm 26!

" I've had small dicks long dick curved dicks" LOL!!!! WOW.... maybe you need a thicker one...

Buy a vibrator. You can even go to your local mall and get one at Spensers. Get in bed, turn off the tv and turn the vibrator on. and be patient.

Janine - never say never, I do it with 'just a penis' all the time ;] It's actually a rarity that it happens any other way ... I'm the exception rather then the rule, though.

Experiment both on your own and with whoever you're with. Try different positions, different speeds, etc.

xxxstardust- Actually I do as well all the time, but I also stimulate myself at the same time in order to make sure it happens. Yes I do think you are in the miniority. I just think most girls are totally unrealistic to expect just having intercourse with a guy make them come, especially if they have never done it alone and figured out their body first. Masturbate!!! Explore your body, see what works. Then teach your partner how to get you there. It's all about knowing your own body, how to please yourself first and then once you have done that, communication with your partner. Have fun.