Yikes, girl, you need some tips on how to date! Sounds like you're pretty clueless. If you want a whole book on the deal, get a copy of "The Rules for Online Dating."

Here are a couple: Don't send more than 4 e-mails back and forth with a guy you meet online. If he doesn't ask you out in that time, he's interested in just chatting, not actually meeting.

Don't chat or IM with guys you meet online.

Don't accept a date to hang out or watch a movie at a guy's place. No decent guy on a first (second, or third date) would suggest you go to his house. This is only appropriate once you know him better.

Don't accept a last-minute date. If he doesn't call to plan at least 3 days in advance, forget it. He's just trying to fill up his free time and has no real interest in you.

good tips luisa.
i do agree - utilize the online dating scene to just meet the men, although people claim that you can get to know a person better by talking to them online since "you can't see them, its their true self" and bla bla, in reality it does a good job at hiding who people really are...

don't be afraid to put yourself out there girl. just don't let yourself get taken advantage of! and don't be going over to guys houses! what kind of guys are these anyways? hey, i know i just met you online, why not come to my house? they should 'court you' the same way they would finding you in any other social situation!!!

you'll do fine, rejection sucks the big one but don't let it discourage you. we all have bad dating experiences but luckily you didn't sink too much into it before it failed. best of luck

You weren't rejected. You rejected him for a reason, so don't be down on yourself. Dating should be fun! Of course, there's nothing saying you have to have a date every weekend. There are those who swear that you'll find it when you stop looking so hard.

You have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince. The more you date the easier it will be to tell the difference between the good guys and the bad guys. If you get a bad feeling about someone, dont meet them. If you meet them and suddenly something doesnt feel right, go home. Trust your instincts and read the signs are the best advice I can give you on online dating. I used to date ALOT and most of the guys I met were online, Vancouver has a HUGE online dating pool to choose from. Anyways, now because I've seen so many profiles I can look at a guy's profile and tell you almost to the T what kind of guy they are. You just need to look out for the similarities. Also, when you're meeting someone online, tell someone. Get one of your good friends on board and tell them when you're meeting a guy. Tell her everything you know about this guy (name, job, age, etc.), where you're meeting and what time you expect to be home. Also, when you meet the guy let him know you told your friend. That way there will be less chance of him doing something bad and if he does then your friend will be able to help find you. Safety first!

One more thing, because you're young you're probably dating guys your age. Girls already mature faster then guys so you're probably dating guys who are just not ready to be settling into a relationship, nevermind the fact that you're dating guys in the entertainment industry which just doubles the chances of meeting guys who just want to screw around for a while. Most actors, musicians and industry people that I know are HUGE drama queens and never take many things seriously. Just watch your back on that.

Yes, absolutely give up on dating because a few guys were acting like guys.

You know there are rules about internet dating like don't meet a stranger at their place...its common sense. But some other stuff it really depends on the person. When I met my bf who I have been with for ages now online I had actually talked to him on msn for quite a while before meeting. On my part...I was dating a few other guys so it took a while to meet him. And we did go to a movie at his place on a second date but it was random after 3 hours of hanging out over dinner we just went over to watch a movie instead of the theatre. I guess what I am saying is, like Fallen said, you need to kiss a lot of frogs to meet a prince. You need to be positive..and not get discouraged so easily. If you are warry about men just wanting to get into your pants...don't sleep with them for 4 or 5 months...normally this weeds out the guys wanting just sex because they will find someone who will. And be careful on online dating sites who you are meeting ie are they in the 'dating', 'hot encounters' or 'hang out' section of the dating site or the serious relationships part. If you actually want a bf the just dating and hang out guys have higher chances to be just trolling for booty.

"What difference does it make to the dead, the orphans and the homeless, whether the mad destruction is wrought under the name of totalitarianism or the holy name of liberty or democracy?" Ghandi

Take a break.

date as many guys as possible, you will met the right one. If you take a break you could miss out on the right one.

Oh MY GOD, THE RULES AGAIN! Please stooooooooooop with the Rules! I'm going to puke!

I met my boyfriend, the love of my life, online, through a mutual friend, and all we did was chat and IM for a year and a half before we ever even met - and now we live together and are crazy happy, SO YOU CAN SHOVE YOUR STUPID RULES! People are not little numbers that you can put in drawers and boxes; everyone is different, everybody's story is different, and you can't try to regiment relationships through a set of statistical guidelines. It's just INSANE, and IDIOTIC. It's so reductive of human nature, and it promotes disgusting traits and habits like dishonesty and manipulation.

Just be genuine - be yourself. You want to see him? See him, and see where it takes you. No failed romance will ever kill you; only hone your skills and teach you better what you want and what you are. Every person you meet will help you grow in some way or another - all you have to do is give them a chance, give it your best, give it your everything. Just BE YOU, and follow your gut. Being rejected is okay. Being alone is okay. Being hopeful is okay. It is all your life, and your life, minute after minute, encounter after encounter, makes you you -

NOT A F***ING STUPID BOOK.

Sometimes when you do just give up on dating, that's when you do find someone great. It happens a lot that way where you aren't even looking and BAM something great comes along. Just make sure you are still open to anything and don't close yourself off from the world. Sometimes we do need this type of cleansing.

I think if you are that jaded right now, you are not in the right mindset to date. What good is it to meet nice men for a potential relationship if you have an attitude because of past experiences?

I think you should take a break and not concentrate on it so much right now. Focus on doing things that make you feel good about yourself, and when you are feeling better, start dating again. Maybe if you hit the gym or take up a new hobby, someone will come along when you least expect it.
Mindset is everything, though, you have to be open and ready for it.

BTW, Fallen, you said you could look at an online profile and tell almost to the T what kind of guy he is...I think you should blog about this! I am totally serious, I would love to read what you have to say about your experiences with online profiles, since internet dating is something I am not as familiar with.

I am totally serious, I think what you have to say would be informative and entertaining, and it would be great to get others' feedback as well.

Karlotta, you and your boyfriend are the exception to the rule. I guarantee it. Most guys who hang out online and don't want to meet within a reasonable time frame are either married or not guys at all. Odds are your guy was married when you started chatting with him . . .

I would give up on internet dating. I have one friend that it worked out well for, but every other story I've heard is nightmarish. It's really hard to get a good feel for someone just by what they write - hello! That's why resumes were invented, so you can make yourself look better on paper than you actually are. If you must do it, maybe just trade a few short messages but arrange a face-to-face as soon as possible. Otherwise, I suggest figuring out a "safer" dating route, like meeting people through friends or some sort of social group, like a church thing or a volunteer activity. This way, you're more likely to meet someone whose values actually allign with yours...not someone who put it on their internet profile to make themselves sound good.