Sorry - engaged since December 2008.

Why didn't you ask him? Why would you get engaged when you're in a rocky relationship? I could jump to the obvious conclusion that he is cheating, or planning on it. I don't think you need me to tell you that. But seriously: talk to him. If you can't talk to him then I don't understand how this engagement happened.

Is he gay?
Seriously, does he have mental problems?
Did you propose to him?
I'd just say now and move on.
I don't know what else to say...
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I'm trying to figure out what to say...
Um...exclusive means that you're in a relationship...a committed one...that's kinda what the ring is supposed to mean...or engagement or whatever.
I"m sorry I don't think he's very smart...and I really hope you're being sarcastic when you're asking what exclusive means.
Otherwise...I"m hoping this is a troll topic.
If not...marry him...take all his money, divorce him, and take the rest.
...I don't know what else to say...again... -_^
Gonna go eat some ice cream...*nod*

He sounds like he's not 100% committed to this relationship. You guys just got engaged even though you hadnt had sex in 4months. He might be seeing someone on the side or, like gscott said, he might be gay and proposed to you because he wanted to follow the proper steps of a relationship. Either way, you two have some major issues and probably shouldnt be considering marriage.

Talk to him, ask him why you two havent had sex, ask him why he proposed and ask him why he would ask if you two are Exclusive! If he doesnt give you answers that make you 100% comfortable and content then move away from this relationship. He is just not ready.

Good luck

my first question is how can you NOT have sex after he proposed to you? i understand not being able to have sex so often (its tough times right now for everyone) but i can not understand how he can propose to you, NOT have sex with you, and then ask if you are exclusive? if you are having issues now, you are going to have issues in the future. I suggest you sit down and discuss these issues with him. ask him why he proposed if he didn't already assume you were exclusive..make sure he understands that ENGAGEMENT = MONOGAMY (for most people, at least). you two do not seem to be on the same page and you should work on that first!
good luck!

Wow, pathetic. This guy is either gay, cheating or impotent. Sit down and ask him which one it is, then make your decision accordingly. (P.S. He's been cheating.)

Uh.. isn't it just assumed that when you get engaged you're exlusive? Unless you've discussed having an open relationship, which doesn't appear to be the case here. The reason you haven't had sex in 4 months is probably because he's cheating. I would break off the engagement, or at least put it on hold while getting some couples therapy.

Uh.. isn't it just assumed that when you get engaged you're exlusive? Unless you've discussed having an open relationship, which doesn't appear to be the case here. The reason you haven't had sex in 4 months is probably because he's cheating. I would break off the engagement, or at least put it on hold while getting some couples therapy.

Um, how come he doesn't know you guys are..exclusive since you guys have been together for 5 years or so and are engaged?

It sounds like he's trying to justify an affair/flings/sleeping around. Something is up. Like the others say, he may be gay or cheating or impotent (my gut feeling is that he's been cheating).

Put the engagement on hold or break it off. Or go to couples therapy.

Good luck.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

He's thinking of cheating-- sounds like he's been getting closer to someone else this whole time.