Write her a letter or email, apologizing, letting her know what you're going to do about this, and leave her alone. If she wants to deal with you, she'll come to you. Honestly, stay away from the alcohol. Seek some help, and move on from this. It's done, don't dwell. I'm thinking maybe? There's something going on with you that's got you completely stressed. People don't usually just flip out just on the whim. So maybe some unresolved issues you haven't dealt with? Don't go killing yourself or w/e, it's a waste of time, and a waste of life. Life is too sacred to be wasted because of failures. Everyone's still alive, everyone's okay. Now's the time to not worry about anyone else, about what happened, own up to what was done and seek help. I'm sure you'll get through it, as it seems like it's just something you're dealing with recently, and I'm guessing this is not who you really are? Stay away from stressful situations, stay away from your roommate, stay away from your girlfriend, unless they end up seeking you out to help. The best you can do is get this under control before it consumes you any further, trust me. You'll be fine, good luck .

Stay away from her. Stay far away from her if you actually care about her.
Don't think about going near her or calling her to say you're sorry, or even asking her to meet somewhere so that you can tell her 'sorry.' Now you're considered a danger and your gf is probably scared sh1tless of you, and all out of your own doing. And if you actually don't heed my warning and go after her for this excuse of 'I want to express how sorry,' hey, go right ahead and see how sorry YOU will really be. Believe me, restraining order is at work here, then order of protection, you can easily be charged with stalking too.

If you want to relay a message on how sorry you are, tell a mutual friend to tell her that you're truly sorry and will be working on whatever issue you're going through. This is ok as long as she doesn't have any protection order against you or any restraining order (and similar order).
Then maybe when you got things worked out (in YEARS from now) perhaps she will be fine with the idea that you'd call or e-mail. Who knows.

You probably need to go to a mental hospital and get voluntarily checked in because you're a danger to others.
And maybe you can get someone at the hospital to help you with the issues, denial or anything. Seems like you're past the 'anger management' issue, when you 'black out' and start attacking others quite frequently now.

Hmm...Makes a good point...best advice anyone could give...heed Hope2Be's warnings...heed the *entire post.* At this point...your relationship with her is more or less...destroyed...it's actually worse than cheating...She more or less will have to process all of this...Yes you're distraught over this...but yeh. It's time to break off contact dude...trust me...it's on another level. Heed the Hope the Oracle's warning.

why has the girlfriend called him five times??
and if you wanted to say you were "sorry"... why didn't you tell her when she called you??

this is weird.

Dude, go to rehab. go get take some serious anger management courses and stay the hell away from this girl. You need to get in control of yourself before you kill someone. Get ahold of yourself and STOP drinking.

i apreaceat the advice. i have told her how sory i am many times i sat on the phone reapeating whil rocking back and forth for about a minut. i intend to stay away from her. i intend not to talk to her. I honestly feel i dont need to be checked into a mental health ward. when i slamed my roomate into the wall he was trying to get into my room after we had a fight and my gf was in the corner having an athsma attack i couldnt get him away, i wand him by pushing him he presued. so i did the only thing i felt i could do. i will be attending anger managment and untell ive compleated the course i dont intend on contacting her at all. i even told her i would leave the appartment so she can get her stuff. i havent even so much as glanced at another woman sence meeting this girl. shes wonderfull and deserves the best i dont expect to be forgiven.
thank you for the comments any more would be appreceated

o and as for rehab for alcohol i dont usuly drink like i said once every three months. and thats just a pint or 2 maby three but usuly doesnt go farthere. the only reason i even drank that day was because i was feeling insecure and i wanted her to have a good time she insested and finaly i said ok after haveing her give me the silent treatment for the last 20 min i just got way carried away

um... i think you're drunk right now. Go get help. Obviously theres some sort of issue

You need therapy - get help.

so im going to take your advice, im f*cked up listening to my posts and you, i need to get this girl out of my life, i don't know how to do it. she called me, she was worried about me. she said she wanted me to be happy. i said the same but i don't think shes gonna move on. her parents are getting a restraining order, im getting charged and i want her to move on. be she seems insistent on not letting me go. i dont know if is should stay and be here for her or. leave. i think she feels responsible for me getting charged i reassured her its ok and ill deal with it on my own. i think shes scared im gonna do something stupid.

Get help first, get cleaned up, when she's out on her own, and you're all good and she's all good, and she can drop the restraining order, and it happens and you two end up together, and it's good then fine. But really, right now, this is messy and will only go down badly. Stay away.

you need to not talk to her at all, ever. She has a history of picking these types of guys and if you let her come back, you only help her continue the cycle. If you love her, you need to let her find someone who isn't going to smack her around.

You also need to seek help at a mental ward. Not necessarily rehab, but a mental ward. They will tell you where you need to go next. Seeking help early also gives you a better chance of getting mercy in court. They will see that you know you have a problem and are trying to fix it.

Btw, you are beyond anger management. You need real intervening care, not listening to how you should not yell and get excited.

I know this chick who was dating a guy with a bad temper. They used to fight all the time and eventually it started getting physical. A few months ago he hit her with something and gave her 19 stitches across the head. She was put in the hospital and he's been thrown in jail. He's still in jail as we speak and SHE is waiting patiently for him to get out. Apparently they're engaged and she's talking about having babies and getting a house with him etc etc. She tries to chatter at me about wedding plans (while HE is still in f*cking jail for beating her up) but all I can think is how bloody delisional she is.

My friend is like your girlfriend. They take the blame for your abuse and forgive you completely even if you are still beating the crap out of her. Dont let her come back before you get a sh!t load of mental help.

Well, if your gf is an adult (18), it should be HER who has to take a restraining order against you, her parents can't do it on behalf of her. Unless she's underage (or an adult who has been declared mentally incapacitated which is pretty rare). It seems like she's still under 18 years old (and legally a minor)
And it seems like your gf has the abusive victim mentality, which is certainly normal seeing how you've explained her history. So you need to be the 'adult' here and do the proper steps to heal yourself and not cause more problems to you and her as well.

My advice will definitely be that you need to stay away from her (although she's calling you), if you ended up talking to her, do tell her that for both of your sakes, she needs to stop calling and that when she's of legal age (and things have calmed down) and you've gotten the appropriate help, you will let her know. If she won't stop calling, you just have to ignore her because if the parents already filed one against you, it doesn't even matter that she's calling you (believe me, I know a boy who got in trouble due to restraining order matters).

You know what, you're not alone. You have a mother (you wrote this on your post). Let her know and ask for her support, if she's a toxic element, I'm sure there's professional help or try to reach out to other family members/friends. Also, mental ward/hospital sometimes offer programs and you can check yourself in (that is, if you're a free man and not have to go to jail or be on trial), and you check yourself out too on your own accord too, if this is your first offense, they may sentence you to go on a program plus some jail time and probation.

And now that you're being charged, chances are you're in jail now unless you can have a friend/family member to bail you out. Good luck though, get help you need and just try to stay on the right path of life.

P.S. I'm not understanding post no.2, are you being sarcastic to Hope2Be, Gscott? Why the bitterness/anger toward some other poster who's speaking not to you (but to the OP) and somehow had different ideas from your first post?

I must say that I do agree with her warnings.
If the original poster keeps talking to her (granted, it's her starting it) and her parents who are doing this restraining order thing found out, it won't matter. The poster will end up in more trouble, more charges can be brought up against him (meaning more time in jail, and I sincerely believe that jail isn't exactly a rehabilitative place for someone who may need mental/emotional help).
Plus if OP 'blacked' out, there's something that needed to be helped out and he COULD be a danger to others not knowing WHY he's behaving the way he's behaving. While he has explained that he didn't exactly black out with the roomie, the hitting of the gf...is another thing. In my opinion, if you behaved violently/abusively toward someone you supposedly love and adore, imagine how more violent/abusive you can get toward those whom you don't care/love (Which pretty much involved many people: strangers and such). So professional help is definitely appropriate to be suggested here.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*