I have a great boyfriend who I have been with for nine months. We recently got back from a vacation together where we took many pictures of the sights, etc. When we got home, he put them on his computer for me so I could upload them and send them to friends. I went looking for the pictures the next day and couldn't find them, so I just did a search of his computer. When I found his pictures folder, I opened it and there was a folder with pictures of his son in there too. I called my boyfriend to asked for permission to look at them — I didn't want to assume that it was okay to "snoop" — and he gave me the green light.
The folder had pictures of his son in it, but it also had a bunch of naked pictures of his son's mother in it! I don't think he even looks at the folder that often but I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to ask him to delete them — I know he would do it without even thinking about it — but the other part of me doesn't want to come across as insecure. If you were in this situation what would you do?
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Azzedine Alaia
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It's worth reminding him they're in there, especially if his son is old enough to be on the computer. Say something like "You might want to take a minute to sort through that pictures folder . . .there's some stuff in there you wouldn't want everyone to see."
1i agree with luisamapacha. just kindly ask him to get rid of them if you know he will do it. i had the same problem when my ex had nude pics of his ex on his computer. when i asked him to delete them he put up no fight and they were gone that day. you shouldnt have any problem.
2Nothing insecure about kindly asking your husband/boyfriend/whatever, to delete naked photos of another woman. He's not an artist right? So he doesn't need thing. Shouldn't be a problem.
3Just as an addition, he ex probably wouldn't want those photos getting out...considering these days, they can be very detrimental to your career/future/etc. Everyone wins.
4If you don't say something, every time you look at the computer you will get a yucky feeling in your tummy! I agree... I would just say, "I saw something I really didn't like on your computer the other day, I think you should go through your photos." And then (if we're being perfectly honest lol) I would probably check a week or two later to make sure they are gone!
5I don't understand the obsession with letting someone take inappropriate pictures of you and then getting mad if they're released. The sole purpose of taking pictures is because they're going to be shared.
6Aloha...........Please take my advice and tell him what you found. Ask him if he was keeping them for a reason and if he even remembered he had them. Then ask him to delete them. Also ask him if there is any other pictures you don't know about. Believe me old pictures like that cause ALOT of trouble.
7I had this happen to me. I had my ex delete them too, if they don't delete them or put up a fight then they must still have feelings. I actually found a video of him and a ex, that was strange. :/ My ex was a big time picture taker took pictures of everything but, you just need to get rid of them for peace of mind.
8I am the OP on this, and I mentioned to him that while I was looking through his photos I found some that his ex may not want the world to see. He was pretty embarrassed, but deleted them immediately, and apologized for not having thought to clean them out after they broke up. No big deal really...acted far different from how previous boyfriends would have acted...Another reason I love him!!!!
9OMG! I guess all of us has gone through this at one time or another. When I first started dating my husband, he gave me the 'green light' to do and go through anything in his old room. Long story short, I found locked away some horrid photos of his ex giving him a 'you know what' and of her naked with her legs spread & then another of them actually having sex (he took that one....DON'T ASK - LOL). My husband is the best, most loyal man in the world, and was completely humiliated and embarrassed that I saw those. Just like the other lady that posted, I truly believe that he forgot he had them (they were locked away in his closet in a very old briefcase that collected MOUNDS of dust). He actually burnt them when I didn't want him to (I wanted to use them against him...wrong, I know but I was/am so upset at them). To this day he worships me and adores me, but I still find times when I cannot get those out of my head. Is there something wrong with me? I don't really think so because I asked him how he would feel if he saw me doing it with my ex husband???? We all know the answer to that (hahah). What can I do to get that out of my head??????
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