You need to get tested for herpes first. Then, I would recommend breaking up with her. You could also sue her for the medical care you'll now require, as she knowingly infected you and put your health at risk. She needs to have legal action taken against her, or she'll do this to others as well.

Wow that's pretty messed up, she should have told you.

It sucks that she did that. She did the wrong thing and may have infected you with an incurable infection but it's up to you whether to forgive her. She is obviously embarrassed and humiliated by her STI and was terrified of you leaving if you knew she had it but she eventually got up the courage to tell you. She could have continued lying and then if you ever contracted it she could have blamed you or something like that but she didnt. She owned up to it and now this is your choice. Many couples have long term relationships while one person is infected and the other isnt so it is possible to continue your relationship. If you are already infected then while it sucks and is probably really annoying... it is managable.

If I was in your situation I would be angry but if I really loved the other person I would probably stick around, but that's just me. I know it couldnt have been easy for her to tell you, even though she should have told you from the beginning. Either way, see a doctor.

Good luck.

First of all, get yourself tested and get some medication so that you can heal yourself.

I understand that she's embarrassed but she lied to you. If she caught aids would she bother to tell you or would she just ask for you to use protection until she's ready to tell you the truth about that too.

You have every right to be angry over her actions and scared for your health. I personally would leave her. To be friends with her later is fine but to be with someone who would lie about such a thing is starting the relationship out all WRONG. She knew what she was doing when she did this too you. Now that doesn't sound like deep love to me. If you love someone then you don't hurt them physically or mentally. She has done both to you already. Again, get yourself tested and leave her.

Leave this b*tch. What a selfish horrible horrible person. She really sucks.

My advice would be to leave her. You're right. She's betrayed you. I dunno on how you can sue her per luisa's advice, but dude, if you can, I'd go for it. I mean, she should at least be responsible for your future medical treatments. I read that there was some dude who got convicted for attempted murder or something akin to that because he has HIV positive and he knowingly slept with people unprotected.

It's gotta be real tough for people who have contracted herpes when it comes to time to let their partners know. But there's still that obligation because this is an incurable disease and if you care very much for the person you're with, you'd NOT want them to go through the hardship you've been going through with herpes--hence you'd be preparing them on how to not contract it when you guys are together-- instead of thinking only of yourself (by not telling) so that s/he won't leave you because you've got the disease. I'm pretty sure that when the doc let her know about the disease, the doc gave her readings on how to tell your partner and etc.

She obviously puts herself first when she decided to not let you know the truth (and she KNOWS all along that she has it) and had sex with you and..to boot: UNPROTECTED ONES too. Whoa. I'm sorry. She SUCKS. Maybe now she hopes you'll stay around because you're both in the same boat..sorry for making such assumption, but I'd make that assumption to people I deem as SUCKY.

Go to a doctor. Get tested.

I have to be honest. You would still be at risk of contracting herpes from her even if you had used a condom, because it is contracted through skin to skin contact, and a condom does not cover all areas that would touch her. Many people contract herpes while using condoms. I personally disagree with her behaviour, it was dishonest and irresponsible. I am not understanding why she willingly had unprotected sex with you knowing that she had it. That was really irresponsible on her part but also on yours. Please make sure you always, always use condoms with anyone else that you meet unless you can see their recent medical testing and know for a fact that they are disease free. It is time for you to get tested and then determine whether you can still be commited to someone that was dishonest to you. It is not my place to tell you what to do, only you can decide if you still want to stay with her. Good luck and I hope you don't have it, but if you do, know that 25% of people have it and many are not even aware that they have it.

She sucks and is too immature to deal with the situation. Imagine what she would be like in other situation? Even using a condom you can pass on herpes anyways. So I would say go get tested. She is completely responsible and you should get tested for other things as well...who knows what else is she hiding.

"What difference does it make to the dead, the orphans and the homeless, whether the mad destruction is wrought under the name of totalitarianism or the holy name of liberty or democracy?" Ghandi

She should have told you before you had sex, period. I get that she is embarrassed- but if she really cared about you she could have put that aside and been honest with you so that you could have made an informed decision.
I cant help but wonder if she was secretly hoping you would contract it and then figure, well you both have it now- might as well stay together bc what other girl is going to want you. I have a friend whose ex husband cheated on her and gave her herpes and she told me one of her first thoughts was that now she was stuck with the cheating jerk bc what guy would want her now?

She should've told you BEFORE having sex with you. In this case, ignorance isn't bliss. She obviously cared more about herself than about your well being.
It's up to you to forgive or not, but seriously, I'd not forgive this if this is the case. It's a huge betrayal because she knowingly inflicts you with incurable STI without wanting to know first if you're more than willing to risk it.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

She didn't tell you before you had unprotected sex (a choice btw you made) because she was afraid that you would break up with her. And she was right.

As long as she was not having an outbreak during the times that you were having unprotected sex you should be fine. Sure still get tested but if she is keeping her herpes under control then you should be safe.

Although herpes is no laughing matter we're not exactly talking HIV/AIDS here where yes, it is a death sentence. Herpes is just annoying.

Should you dump her? No. Not if you love her. You can understand her reasons for not telling you and I'm not excusing her as she should have told you before the condom came off but you said yourself that you would have had nothing to do with her. She obviously cares about you or she wouldn't have told you at all. She told you before she felt horrible for keeping it a secret and wants everything to be out in the open so that you two ccan move on. I srsly doubt she meant anything malicious by not telling you.

If you haven't done so already then you should read up on herpes before you go jumping to conclusions. I would be mad as hell if something like this happened to me but on the other hand you don't know if you have anything.

And if you do decide to break up with her then let this be a lesson to you to keep it wrapped up.

Wow, this blog is old.

Anywho, I wish you the best of luck with this situation, if you're still in it.