My loving wife of 17 years does not enjoy receiving oral sex. She says (and I believe her) that she is self conscious about the way she smells and tastes and thinks the whole idea of cunnilingus is dirty. (She loves giving me oral sex, however, and is very good at it). I have several issues with this.
I LOVE giving oral sex. If I had my way, it would be a normal precursor each time out (or in, as the case may be)
I am VERY adept at it - it's a combination of stamina, technique, being taught by a much much older girlfriend the right way a long time ago, and a genuine, heartfelt excitement for the priveledge of being there. I have had GFs in the past tell me how much they enjoyed my talents, and one in particular was a practicing bi-sexual and said it was better than any "homefield advantage" she had ever had.
I LOVE the way my wife tastes, and have told her so. She has tasted herself on a few occasions and has commented, "Hey, that's not bad at all."
Here's the ringer: the few times I am "allowed" to do it (maybe 2-3 times per year), the sex is always AMAZING and super hot. When given the opportunity, I have raised by wife to multiple orgasms using only my mouth and hands, so even with her reluctant approval, I know she, shall we say, takes to it very well.
My fantasy is to have her walk up to me out of the blue and say, "Get down there and get after it, mister" strip from the waist down, grab me by the back of my head and treat me like a virile cabana boy.
Help me figure out a way to bring her around PLEASE!!!
Vicenza
Try starting out in a shower or bath so she feels clean.
1This sounds to me like it is related to a basic sense of shame about her body, which could have stemmed from an event when she was young or the way that she was raised. Somehow she has gotten the idea that women's bodies are unclean, but mens are not. I think that this is a sexual inhibition in general as well, perhaps she is uncomfortable allowing herself to 'let go' and really enjoy sex as much as anyone deserves to. Could there be sexual abuse in her past? I am not assuming this is the case, but 1 in 3 women are sexually abused when they are young, so it is a valid guess. Sexual abuse can cause shame for a woman in relation to enjoying sex or comfort with her body. If this is the issue, she should seek treatment for it, if she has not already. I don't really know what other advice to give you, aside from reassuring her about how much you love doing it and, as Luisa suggested starting out in the bath or shower first. But I would just be worried that might make her feel like YOU think she is dirty and reinforce her self consciousness. If you are going to do that, be very clear that you don't feel it is necessary but you really want to do it, so if it would make her feel comfortable, then you could shower/bath first. Other than that, it sounds like she is a lucky girl who has a man who is so willing to please her that way. Good luck.
2luckily i have never had the problem but then i also let my sweetie wax me also. this way he knows if he doesnt do it right he gets stubble. though it did take a bit of work letting me do him. guess some girls are too self conscious about their pubes. as QUEEN said so well in a song GET DOWN.......MAKE LOVE.
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