I think that a lot of times - twins or not - the parents give the boys a lot more freedom than the girls. I don't think it's especially fair but a lot of times that's just how it goes.

I'm sorry you are having a hard time with your parents right now. What if you tried to schedule a nice girls day out with your mom since your brother got a boys day out?

I agree with popgoestheworld. Boys definitely get more freedom than girls in a lot of families.

I also wanted to point out that it's very easy to see from your own perspective and more difficult from another's. I was *convinced* my mom favored my brother for most of our lives growing up. And I remember talking to him about it a few years ago, and he was sincerely shocked. As was I to hear that *he* was convinced that my mom favored *me* and was unfair to *him*.

sigh...this is why i became a women's studies major in college!!!!

so i don't really have any advice except to emphasize and say that i know EXACTLY what you're going through. my mother always let my brothers go out more and later at night. i could never do that because she thought i would get raped and attacked the minute i left the house alone.

funny that she always used to let me sleep over my friend's house and we would go out to D.C. with her brothers every time! lol...maybe you have a friend whose house you can sleep over?

I had a very similar experience, my sister and I both noticed that my brother got a lot more freedom. I think parents tend to imagine all sorts of things happening if they let their daughters have freedom. I think you need to talk to your parents about trust. Basically, if they have raised you to make smart and mature decisions then you should be able to earn freedom thru good behaviour and good school grades. I agree that it is totally unfair that your parents are letting your bro have more fun. My parents let my brother drive wherever he wanted, I was restricted as to when and where I could use the car. My brother had a much later curfew, was allowed out more with friends etc.... Unfortunately this seems to be a pretty common issue! Just be as mature and responsable as you can, and remember that in a year or two you will be off at college and have all of the freedom you deserve!

Welcome to the inevitable. My parents are the same way. I have two brothers, and while my parents encourage them to date, they don't even want me having any guy-friends! If my brother comes home later than midnight, my parents shrug it off, but when it's a minute past midnight and I'm not at home, I get numerous calls and demands to come home, then of course I get a scolding. Why? Because we're girls, and apparently we are in more danger of getting kidnapped, raped, impregnated, and other incidents. More importantly, along with these incidents, parents don't believe that girls have the capability to defend themselves against men. Take their over-protectiveness into consideration and just take a little bit of time to view it as just a message that they love you and want you safe. I know it seems unfair - no, I KNOW it's unfair - but just because they give your brother more freedom does not mean that they love you less. ~*~ Stefani