I’m not usually one to read too much into things…however a few situations with my sister-in-law make me wonder if she may be copying me. First, when she was engaged she got the exact same ring as me and she set her wedding 6 months away just like I had done when I was preparing for my wedding. That didn’t really seem weird to me, in fact, I was flattered. Then she picked a strapless wedding gown set of by pearls and an eternity wedding band exactly as I had done. At this point I noticed the similarities in our choices but was still more flattered then anything. What just happened recently sort of opened my eyes…All summer long my husband and I have talked about having his nephew over for a few days so he could spend time with us. We planned on doing it sometime near the end of summer and had made that clear to everyone in the family. I was about to arrange our nephews visit when I found he had been invited to my sister-in-laws condo for the week. Now that the week has been taken due to our work schedules we will not be able to have our nephew over before the end of summer as we had planned. She had never wanted to have him over until she heard we were doing it. I feel like the copying has gone a bit too far. I also feel really bad for viewing it as a negative thing, am I wrong in being a bit frustrated?
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You're overreacting. Be thankful she's taking your nephew because you can't. She's stepping up for you.
1She must have thought your wedding was very nice and your choices in dress and rings were classy. She's not being a copy cat, she's seen how well these things worked out for you so instead of going an uncharted route she's going down one that she's seen work.
With the nephew thing, let it go. Even if she was trying to take your thunder... who cares? it all worked out in the end. Dont compete with her, there's no point in it.
"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"
2What are you going to do? Accuse her of stealing your nephew?
3I was just wedding dress shopping with a friend and the shop we were at I noticed at lot of the start to look the same just different price tags. As far as the eternity band almost everyone I know picks that as their wedding band so I do not see it as her copying you. How do you know she didn't want to have your nephew over before the end of the summer did you ask her? It doesn't sound like it to me. Stop making it into a competition and if something is a big deal to you than keep it a secret. Throwing a fit will only make you look stupid!
4I don't think your complaints are worth getting upset over. They seem petty. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff. This is definitely small stuff. There are positives in every situation, including yours.
If your sister-in-law lives close, then talk to her about taking him for a few days.
5I understand why you would be annoyed by this girl. She sounds like she has no original ideas of her own. I would say that if you feel like she will be weird like this again and compete for things (like family time) then just make your plans first and tell her after the plans are already set up. Then this kind of thing won't happen again. Also, if you want to, you can tell her that you were really disappointed when you found out that she had your nephew over for the week that you had hoped/planned to spend with him, because you did not get to see him. She should have been more considerate. Hopefully she will realize this after you tell her. But if not, just be prepared that she may do this kind of thing again. You can put her onto a needtoknow basis.
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