My boyfriend and I have been together for more than a year. We survived a year with me being away in college and him going to the local community college. Our relationship is wonderful. He can be a bit of a goof and playfully immature, but he's also very sweet, caring, grounded, quirky and intelligent. Whenever any of his friends needs help, he is there. I could always rely on him for support when I feel down. Most of all, he accepts me for who I am and with me, I accept him as well. Whenever we had problems, we always talked them over and made our relationship stronger. However, a recent development has made feel confused.
His close circle of friends are mostly high school-aged. I have met them, and I get along with them pretty well. Nearly a week ago, my boyfriend and a guy friend were walking together around their hometown when my boyfriend revealed to him that he has a "passable crush" on one of their mutual female friends. I have also met his female friend before. Though I only met her once before, my boyfriend has talked about her to me along with his other friends. From what I know and what I could tell, she's a very nice, mature girl. We also exchanged phone numbers so we talked and texted each other a couple times. I know that she is smart enough to not cheat on her boyfriend either. The female friend told the guy friend she has a crush on my boyfriend even though she's sixteen and has a boyfriend. So the guy friend told the female friend about my boyfriend's crush on her. It made things awkward when my boyfriend took pictures of her before she had to go to her friend's Sweet Sixteen party. She worried about my boyfriend so, two days later, she invited him out to lunch to talk things over. She told him that if she was not with her boyfriend, she would date my boyfriend. However, my boyfriend told her it was a passing fancy. He told me that he wouldn't even be able to date her because of his hectic college class schedule. They are now feeling better ever since the indirect confession through their guy friend.
When he told me all about this, I did not want to feel angry or flip out on him. I wanted to block it out. I understand that it is normal for people in relationships to have little crushes on other people so I reassured him with that. But I could not ignore my initial small burst of anger within me that he did like her. When I told him what I felt, he apologized to him for doing that. He told me that it was merely his body telling him to cheat, but he knows deep down inside that he loves me. I told him to not do it again, and he said he won't.
My boyfriend, the guy friend, and the female friend hung out again last night. She told my boyfriend that she'd feel a little awkward being around me when we hang out again. She worried about if she was impeding on our relationship, but my boyfriend and I don't feel that way. Yet, deep down inside, I still feel angry that such a thing happened between them. I feel torn and confused about what to do. What should I do about my boyfriend's confession? How do I face her?

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