First off realize that he thinks your naughty bits are VERY sexy, with or without bruises and ingrowns. He doesnt have the same thing you have so exploring that is super yummy and sexy.

Get a pair of exfoliating gloves that you use often in the shower and when getting waxed, keep the skin stretched... you know when it hurts and you close your legs to stop the pain? yea.. that gives you bruises. If you keep your knees faaaar apart and deal with the pain you will reduce your bruising.

Dont be shy, continue thinking "he likes this, if he didnt like this, he wouldnt volunteer to do it so f*cking often" and make sure you're clean. If you're not clean, tell him to hold up until you get in the shower. He'll appreciate that. Otherwise just sit back, close your eyes and try to enjoy... though I was the same as you... now, I just enjoy it.

Good luck

"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"

Does he really love it? Or is he faking it in order to please you?

I guess the answer to the question doesn't necessarily matter.

A guy who is good in bed is someone who listens to what you like and tries to please you.

A lot of guys think that women dig oral but are afraid to ask for it. But there are a lot of women out there (myself included) who prefer other sexual acts.

So if you're not digging it, then just say so. Be gentle. You can say something like "I like it better when your mouth is up here." That way it's not really saying no - it's just saying a preference.

I'm sure the bottom line is that he just wants to please you.

Wow.. that's just unheard of! A dude who is WILLING to minister to his girl??

Anyway, I don't really enjoy having a guy go down on me either. According to a few physicians and therapists, it's because I'm too tense =/ Well, I say just confront him gently and lovingly. If it's true that he wants to be there for you and please, he should be open to some other [freak =P] suggestions for the bedroom!

Good luck with it all, yeah?

As long as he's willing just try to enjoy it. I know it's embarrassing (I'm married and am still embarrassed y it) sometimes a shot of vodka can help calm you down and help you relax.

Body butter in those sensitive areas helps reduce damage to the skin when waxing/shaving. Keeping it well moisturized allows the hairs to become softer and not as hard to pull/cut. Which should help with the bruising and ingrown hairs.

Good luck m'dear!

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some people are different and just don't enjoy it. i looove sex and foreplay with my boyfriend however have never enjoyed oral- from anyone. it makes me feel uncomfortable and violated. whenever someone has their head down there i feel like i'm at the gyno, and if i could stop panicking long enough to enjoy it maybe i would. just do something else if you don't like it.

agreed with the rest of the girls. I love sex and foreplay but don't really like oral. It doesn't really do it for me..but some of my friends keep insisting I havne't found a guy who does it right...I enjoy other things way more. So I would say give him a chance but if you discover you don't find that much pleasure in it I would tell him gently what other ways is better for you....

Relax, fantasize and enjoy the fact he is focused on giving you pleasure. Believe me, that is not the case with many guys. Also, I would suggest just trimming your pubes short, then you don't have to worry about ingrown hair/bruises. He probably can't see them anyway in the dark or doesn't really notice/care. As someone else said, could you have a couple drinks, a nice bubble bath first to help you get relaxed? And really, fantasize what you would think about while masturbating while he is going down on you, it will help you get more turned on. Have fun! Also, don't be embarassed or ashamed about your lady parts, he obviously loves the smell and taste!

If he isn't complaining than don't worry too much about it and enjoy
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