Um, I don't know if you've tried pleasuring yourself (learning about your vagina and G-Spot) or if you're going to think it's against your religious belief. It took me quite awhile to get over my religious upbringing (yes, I didn't learn to masturbate until much later). Depending on your religion...I actually find some..sex education for Christian women awhile back. If you're not one, then maybe you can find out if there's one according to your religious beliefs.

In my experience, I find out that being on top is a sure fire and quick way for me to get there. You should try it, but then again, every one is different.

Good luck.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

I'm going to add that you need to relax and it may take you awhile to get there, so while getting there, do have fun with yourself and your spouse.

Oh, and learning about yourself (masturbating/finding out your G-spot) will help things faster, because then you can show your husband where or even know how to get there.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

You can't expect to suddenly orgasm during sex if you have never explored your own body and know how to satisfy yourself first. I seriously hope that you did masturbate before, but if you haven't then you need to start doing it now. OFTEN. Your partner will never be able to know what makes you orgasm until you have explored your own body and know what it takes and exactly how you like to be touched etc... Sex is all about communication and you can't tell him what makes you come if you don't even know for yourself. Also, where in the bible does it say that sex toys are a sin?? I am so confused! They will definitely help you orgasm faster and easier. You can buy a little silver bullet that you put on your clit during sex or solo play. It will also blow his mind because he can feel the vibrations. You need a lot of clitoral stimulation before and during sex, as well as a lot of foreplay, with him pleasuring you.
Try sex with you on top or in doggy style and use the bullet on your clit or rub your clit. Have him give you oral sex and tell him exactly what you like. Take control of your own body, because only you will be able to find out what makes you orgasm. Detachable shower heads are also great as are hot tub jets on your clit. Sorry for the TMI, but I really felt like you needed it. I would also suggest reading "For Yourself" by Lonnie Garfield Barback, it is all about ways for a woman to teach herself to orgasm. But most of all, stop being so uptight about sex. You are with someone you love and you are commited. The sky is the limit, stop putting so many rules about sex and you might start to let loose and really enjoy each other. Have fun and stop feeling ashamed about using sex toys, your body and start masturbating. You sound really repressed and it makes me sad for you because you are missing out on a lot of pleasure that it is your right to enjoy as a woman. Good luck and have fun with your new husband!

For the guy, touch him and he's turned on. Touch him slow and he's vibrating, touch him with your tongue and you're getting better... touch yourself and he's through the roof. Experiment with him as well to find out what turns both of you on but as Janine says, cool it with the religious pressure!!! You waited til marriage, you're golden, now loosen up a little or you'll never get what YOU deserve.

Here's a TMI coming: No man can make me cum... by himself. Doesnt matter the position, doesnt matter the toy, doesnt matter if I'm directing him each step of the way, my body is just veyr picky so while I'm on my back, legs in the air and he's goin at 'er, I'm using my hand to get what I want. EVERY WOMAN IS DIFFERENT. Alot of women find that on top works for them because they can control the movement but for me I'm a whole other ball game. As the ladies before me said, learn how to get yourself off before even attempting to get anyone else to. It's not fair to him and it's not fair to you. Good luck

"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"

I don't know exactly what you mean by "got there." Do you mean orgasm? That's not a bad word, you know.

It takes some women years to figure out their bodies. Be patient, have fun, try different thing (no need for toys.) It'll happen in time.

Somewhere I had read a quote that Eva Longoria took until age 26 before going "there" and I'm assuming she wasn't following the religious upbringing like you... just like everyone else above, it takes time, months and even years! Yeah it's frustrating because of the guy gets "there" every single time, but you will have your moment too, we unfortunately have to be more patient.