hey dearsugar! i just wrote a blog wanting to hear
input,advice,experience.Not a huge problem just a break-up.But what do you
think of the situation? was the reason he broke up with me justified? do
you think there are other reasons behind it...ect? ex-we are both really
close friends with Sadie. Ian went out with her,the beginning of this year
for 3 months,she broke up with him and he really loved her. they are still
close friends now and he and her say there is nothing. but when other
people say ian still really likes her,i can't help but let it get to me
along w/thier really close friendship. so just overall,what do you think
of this situation? sorry for the inexperienced rambling of a 16 year old
xoxo,isabella

my friend/crush Ian asked me to go out with him after we both knew we had
feelings for eachother.we had been spending alot more time together and
talking on the phone practically every night.We were going out for three
weeks and everything seemed great. The kisses were sweet and
romantic,conversation flowed so easily,he held my hand everywhere we
went,met me outside my classes and walked me home after school,called me
every day. The beginning of the 3rd week, he made me the sweetest cd of
all these lovey songsthe songs had amazing love lyrics and made my heart
melt and even better he hand wrote the song titles and cover and slipped a
little note on the inside. at the end of the note it said "love you"
and....he had erased part of the message but it was still readable and it
said "listen to the lyrics of some of these songs,they show my love for
you and what you mean to me" everything was amazing. the only fault was, i
had no classes with him and my parents won't let me hangout during the week
because they want me concentrating on my school work.So we basically had
friday,saturday and sunday and in between classes to see eachother. Last
weekend was his birthday party. His b-day was a month ago and i had
already made him a present,sang to him...ect. this party was just a small
thing at his house watching a movie w/ friends. i was planning to go and
really wanted to,but my best friend(more so, sister) called and asked to
have a sleepover. My dad made me to chose between the 3 plans i had made
for that weekend so i chose Sarah's sleepover and Rae's party that was
that night(i had already said yes)I told Ian about it and how i hadn't
seen Sarah since christmas and this was the perfect time to fianlly see
her. He seemed fine and i fiqured it was ok because its pretty much a
written rule that girls will always chose their best friends over their
boyfriends. but anyways,things seemed fine,after talking to him friday
night,he said he'd talk to me later. So when he didn't call saturday or
sunday i was really dissapointed,he usually called every night! and i
didn't want to call because he was the one who said he would talk to me
later and i hate doing anything remote to "chasing" a boy,even if he's my
boyfriend. so i waited,figuring when i saw him in between classes on mon.
we wld talk about. ha, i didn't see him. So,that is when i called him and
left a message after school. It was very non-challant,no annoyance in my
voice at all,even though i was filled with many questions. I just said how
i hadn't talked to him in awhile and asked how he was and told him to call
me back when he got the message. but anyways,he calls back alittle while
later. btw-our mutaul friend sadie had notcied something was wrong with
him that day. but he called back,he semed very distant and i was trying to
get him to open up. i decided to stop though,so i wldn't be pushy,i just
told him,i'm here to talk if you need me. He even said it didn't have to
do with us. (ha)so we ended the call,with me still feeling something was
wrong but no idea what.i talked to my my mom and sis and they speculated
it was because i chose sarah's house over his party. :/ ? but,he called me
back that night and gave me the break-up speech. ha,tpo make it short the
lines were basically "i'm really sorry i didn't call u this weekend,i was
trying to think things through" Your'e such a beutiful person and so much
fun to be around but with track coming up,and you not being able to
hangout alot, we'll only be able to see eachother on sundays" ummm..so
basically we wouldn't be able to spend any time togehter. he told
saide(one of my best friends,one of his b-friends) that he didn't feel we
were connected enough,so spending that time apart would drive us apart.
so, i can't think of whatvever else to explain or write about now. Sorry
for the extremely long writing,i just wld like advice. Does this sound
like a logical reason for a break-up? i suppose it does,but isn't liking a
person(not loving,too soon for that)enough to want to try and make it?
especially for all the sweet behavior that he noramlly showed besides the
last 2 days.well anyways interpretation of him and this whole situation
and how to deal with it wld be greatly appreciated. i am finding that i'm
getting over him which makes me very happy but its not easy,i'm sure
tomm. i'll be thinking about him all over again. new crush is need in my
case,i'm on the look ;)lol so yes,please share
advice,experience,stories!