Honestly, this is on a level of serious where you may want to ask a professional's opinion (like a psychologist) on how to handle it. Waiting to tell this long was not the right thing to do and you are just making the situation worse the longer you wait. I can't really tell you how to get a good outcome on this, but what I can tell you is that I believe everything happens for a reason and you will maybe not have the life you were expecting but you can still find a lot of positives. I can't really see any way your fiance will forgive you this, especially because you have not had a sexual relationship with him. I think the best thing you can do is tell him asap and contact the real father and figure out how you are going to move on with your life.

You must be feeling so much stress right now... You're in a terrible situation, but these things do happen to people in life. You've got to pull yourself together and tell your fiance ASAP. Do not expect him to stay with you. The only thing you can do is put the pieces of your life back together moving forward. But you can't start the recovery process until you settle things in your current relationship first. As a Catholic I'm proud of you for keeping the baby given the circumstances. Stay strong and focus on what's right for you and your baby.

My question is: Why on earth did you get engaged to someone before you told him you were going to have a baby to someone else? What were and are you thinking? Of I guess you aren't! Don't use the excuse of religion about you "vow." That is clearly not the case, since you did sleep with someone! I would prepare to have this baby on my own and hopefully you have a good job and education to support yourself and your baby. Hopefully, your family will help you.

So i guess this means you either cheated on him or you guys are rushing to get married? Either way, you're going to lose( and it looks dirty on this side). Here's hoping you think before you act in the future.

Tell your fiance as soon as possible. Expect them all to be angry. That is just life. If you were old enough and presumably find yourself responsible enough to have sex, then you are old enough etc. to deal with the repurcussions of your actions. That is how babies are made. Why can't people seem to realize that?

Hmm, this sound too dramatic to be real life. BUT, I know things like this happen.

First, you need to get over the self-blame quickly. Forget about the whole Catholic and "being pure" stuff, and don't worry about disappointing them. For whatever reason, you chose to sabotage your current relationship by having sex with another man . . .but now you are going to have a child to raise on your own, and you need to focus your energy on that.

Tell your fiance at your house or your parents' house, with other people there but not in the same room. Tell him "I'm pregnant. I'm so sorry." If the two of you haven't had sex, he'll put 2 and 2 together. If you have had sex with him, say, "I'm pregnant, but the baby isn't yours. I'm so sorry."

As for telling your dad, say "Tom and I have called off the wedding. And while I know you're going to be upset, I'm excited to announce I'm expecting a child with Bob."

I hope you're not thinking your fiance might stick around. Go get on file ASAP so the father of the baby is held responsible and pays child support.

I want to add - if for some reason your father and fiance want to rush the wedding and pretend the baby's his, say no way. A life of secrets is no way to live.

Agreed about the secrets. And I too think this is a fake.

Clearly --the image is linked to the account.

I am not really understanding this. You just found out that you were pregnant last month, but yet you are 4 months along? Why did you not notice your missed periods or notice that you are pregnant sooner? Is this a real picture, because this story does not seem real to me at all. Also, I am not understanding why you were willing to have sex with an ex, but not the man you plan on marrying??? If this story is not real, I don't think it is cool at all to make up fake stories. People here do not want to waste their time on lies.

good point pistil-i looked at the image-i am afraid that we have been had!

I find it highly ironic that you got engaged on Mothers Day.

Oh come on ladies, this is an obvious fake! Check out the Sugar with the screenname Nottrolling... yea, I think that might be the one.

"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"

I sincerely think this is a fake.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

Wow, whoever has that much time on their hands to create this story needs some friends.

I BELIEVE IT WAS SELFISH OF YOU TO EXCEPT HIS RING KNOWING THAT YOU WERE PREGNANT WITH ANOTHER MANS BABY. BEFORE THINGS GET WORST YOU NEED TO COME CLEAN WITH YOUR HUSBAND TO BE.

HOWEVER, IT DOES SOUND LIKE YOUR FULL OF IT! NICE STORY LOSER

how did ya'll figure that out

JAW-DROPPER anyone? being selfish iz not good.

You need to be completly honest with your future husband. How long have you been with this man? I'm trying to figure out if you cheated or if this was something that happened before hand. If this man loves you there should be no problem. Good Luck