I graduated from college in december and since then I have been in contact with an old professor of mine. At first we communicated via e-mail about career advice etc. Then the conversations got a little more personal where we were just talking about daily life. Since then we have met up twice for coffee and had a very pleasent conversation. After the last time we met up he e-mailed me and told me that he had a great time and would like to meet up again. Since we had become better friends I decided to tell him that I have a son. So he wrote me back and told me that he was surprised to hear that, but he understood me waiting until I was comfortable telling him. He preceeded to say that he was even more impressed with me and how I have continued do good things in my life, like graduating from college etc. He also asked me what his name was and old he was. I wrote him back and thanked him for the kind words and told him about my son. It has now been a week since that e-mail, and usually are conversations have been pretty consistant in response. So I am just wondering if even though he was really nice in the e-mail, did it scare him off that I have a kid? He is 30 and has been divorced, and the last time we met up for coffee he said something about kids a couple of time, so i didn't think that would scare him off, but now i'm not so sure that it didn't. What do you all suggest? I am very attracted to him physically and it seems like we would have great chemistry? Where do I go from here?
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Claudie Pierlot
Shoot him a casual email and invite him for a coffee, if he accepts then he may be still interested, if he doesnt then count it as a loss and move on.
"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"
1This is going to feel HARD for you (since you're immensely attracted to him), but here's the answer: NOWHERE.
You need to LET GO.
), it may be that he's getting back together w/ an ex, or whatever, or etc. But bottomline: he's not that into you.
Who knows what triggered his backing away, it may be because of children, it may be because he's a closet gay guy (
But next time I'm sure you'll meet better and more awesome guys, though, so continue on dating, don't get stuck on this one. Have fun with your dating life
P.S. Next time, there's nothing wrong with disclosing to a guy if you have a child immediately
(sooner instead of waiting until you have 3 dates) when you know them, the 'wait' time usually is when to introduce him to your child after you're sure of him.
*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*
2I going to go with Fallen here...shoot him a "casual" email or text inviting him to coffee or whatever. If he responds then maybe he was busy..if he doesnt then he is not interested.
3This is the person who put the post. And I was just wondering that if the fact that I have a kid did scare him off, should I still let him not that I am not interested in anything too serious? Because I am about to go back to school to get my masters, so that is my main focus but I want to have a little fun on the side too. I know a lot of guys see single moms as women who are only interested in serious relationships.....so should I just be blunt? Because I am very young and haven't dated but 2 guys in my life so I am looking for something different.
4If he responds to your casual message, be blunt. Guys can't read your mind and with the way you approached things he might've gotten the impression that you indeed do want a serious relationship with him.
5After being blunt he knows exactly what you want and can decide whether he wants that as well or not. If not then that's too bad but at least you didn't lead him on and also avoided misunderstandings.
I wouldn't write him off just yet but you don't seem to have anything to lose either way. Better to be blunt and miss up on a chance than getting together with him and signing up for trouble in the long run because of different expectations.
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