Here's my dilemma, my boyfriend and I have been dating for quite some time now and it has got to the point of meeting the parents. I will be meeting his during Easter break and he wants to meet my mother and younger siblings before then. A little background info....he is British which means his family is a bit anti-social, quiet and proper people. I have no problem with that because I'm similar to them. However, I'm Hispanic, which means means that my family are very open people, friendly, opinionated and of course speak another language. Problem is, I don't have the greatest relationship with my mother and there's also the fact that after living here for over 15 years she refuses to learn English and can barely say anything in English. I am not ashamed of my mothers lack of English but I do get upset at her for not wanting to learn the language (I've even bought her books, paid for course, everything you can imagine). There's also the fact that my mother is the type who likes to go out every once in a while and loves loud music. Now I know my boyfriend loves me but I am afraid this might scare him away a bit. He has mentioned in the past that he cant understand why people who come from other countries refuse to learn a language that will help them succeed. I'm already nervous about what his parents will think of me since I'm 6yrs his junior and still in college. So ladies if any of you have been in this situation please share....are there ways that I might prepare him for my mother? Should I tell him now how she is? Please help......
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How serious are you guys anyway?
Imho, you should be pretty serious about someone before bringing them home to meet the parents. My mom is similar to yours in the aspect that she doesn't speak English too well, but she's vigorously studied and actually understood whatever people are saying to them, it's just that she doesn't speak too much to answer (so she seems quiet and reserved--can appear snobby according to my hubby--but in actuality, she's VERY opinionated and critical if you speak the same language
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If he 'ran away' due to your mom/parents, then he's NOT worth it anyway. Because although how nutty your family can be (and many families can be very nutty, loud, whatever), if he loves you, he should be able to either love your family or at least be able to stand them during family gatherings. Hey, that's what family is for
to dread a week or two before Holidays 
(Kidding).
But if you are introducing him to your family, you do need to give him a head-up in regards of the custom, traditions and some quirks about your mom. Tell him that she may be loud, etc but she's a good person, and don't judge her based on her outer appearance, and that it's just that you two sometimes don't get along because of different opinion/view/attitude.
Good luck to you.
1just warn him and he will know what to expect, your not her, she is not you, he should not have a problem .
2You should never be ashamed of our family regardless of where they come or how they act. Your boyfriend has to remember that your mother and you are two separate people. If he cant accept them then hes not worth it to be honest with you. Good luck
3i think you should just let your mom be who she is.. it's not your problem, or business if she doesn't want to learn english, and you shouldn't judge her for it. your boyfriend will know, if he's a good guy, that your mother is her own person and he won't judge you based on her actions, nor judge her herself hopefully. just let it be:)
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