It was a year ago. Get over it.

I see that you're angry, but yeah, it's all in the past now. PAST. It's happened and can't be changed, I'm pretty sure that the two have very different recollection of what happened so yep, the only one thing for sure: They SLEPT together. That's all.

But if you think his action of covering up the fact that he slept with your friend BEFORE he met you is such a deal breaker, then you should move on.

As in regards of your 'friend,' y'know what, it doesn't seem like you guys are much of friends anyway, you seem to have a falling out with her long time ago and that you seem to be seeking of ways to end of the friendship. If you need a way out, I guess you can use this one excuse.

Good luck to you.

It's a matter of forgiveness. If they're not still sleeping together, then what's with the questions? He sounds sincere, from what I can tell in your post. Also... come on, he's a guy? You guys sounds fairly young (just guessing, sorry if I'm wrong), and a young single guy faced with a free, willing sex partner is usually going to take her up on it. And you say he didn't even know you at the time?

He's off the hook here. The only question here is whether you can forgive and forget.

It was before you. You're mad because he lied and originally denied it. He was obviously scared when you originally asked him. Forgive him if he's always been honest with everything else. She doesn't sound like a friend, or even a positive person to be around, so forget about her and move on.

I would say she probably lied because she felt bad about it, it's unfortunate that she would say that he forced her to do it. She basically makes it seem like he raped her, which doesn't sound to be legitimate at all based on your description of him. It sounds like she didn't want to admit it, and that if she said she didn't want to do it, some of the onus would be taken off of her and put onto your boyfriend. Her motives seem selfish. As for your boyfriend lying about it, that is not a good sign. Honesty is very important in a relationship, and if he will lie about something, then what else will he lie about? I would make it clear to him that you are very hurt, that he lied to you and that honesty is a must if you are to continue in the relationship with him. I was just wondering if you had known about this, would it have been unlikely that you would have dated him at all? If so, maybe that's why he lied about it, because he liked you so much and kind of regretted it. I would say he is probably kind of embarassed that this happened, rightfully so. I think the other thing you may be upset about is that you heard it from her and not from your boyfriend. Basically, he should have been the one to tell you, since you are in an intimate relationship with him. I am also sensing some jealousy that this happened between your boyfriend and your best friend, which can't be easy to deal with. The thing about having sex unscrupulously, guys can be like that, a lot of them will take any chance to have sex with a somewhat attractive partner, especially young guys. I am not saying that you don't have the right to be upset or grossed out about it. If she is that promiscous, I hope that they used a condom. Anyway, you need to be really upfront with your boyfriend about how hurt you are about the lying and that he didn't tell you. I would be concerned about the lack of honesty because I think that is a really bad sign. It is up to you if you are willing to forgive him at this point, but I would suggest a lot of communication with him about this issue because you are obviously very hurt. He needs to know how hurt you are about it. If you decide to stay with him and ever catch him in another lie about something important, then ditch him! I have been there and the guy I stayed with just kept lying, it got worse. Good luck to you!

It was before the two of you met. Frankly, your boyfriend didn't have to tell you any of it. Everyone has a past. I think you need to get over this, if you are to continue this relationship.

Why did this come up in conversation all over again, after a year? Were you hounding him with questions? Have you been acting insecure and jealous?
Is there more to this story, perhaps?

It's water under the bridge now. I would confront your friend about the amount of people she sleeps with. She isn't going to end up with a great reputation and when your best friend thinks your a slut you have problems.

No, there isn't more to the story. We were having a great weekend together, and he said something like..."I've done some really dumb sh*t" and so I asked thinking it was something stupid. His face got all red, and then he finally told me. I was so surprised because I had no second thoughts about when he would say it didn't happen.

as i'm growing up i realize that girls often try to take the heat off of them by lying, which sounds like what your friend britney did when she said that he "made" her have sex with him. i don't think she even necessarily felt bad about it, she just didn't want you to blame her.

i think your boyfriend probably did feel bad about it, but mostly because he knew that you would be upset (which you proved him right on that one). it was a long time ago, it obviously meant nothing to either one of them, and he ended up with you, not her! i know it's hard to let it go when it probably nags at your brain all of the time, but forgive them both and go on with your life and you will soon forget.