Right now, theres nothing you can do. Dont talk to her, she wont like that, she wants you gone, she will never feel comfortable with you. Your friend may have said something to her about you that makes her feel like she has to compete. Until he loses her, he wont be a friend to you. Sorry, its just the way it is

I am in the same situation you're in, but I'm the girlfriend!! It's not that I'm jealous, but I know my boyfriend and his ex's history, and things that she said when we first started dating. I was very patient at first, but then she became a nusiance!! She has a VERY BAD history of using people to get what she wants and likes to contact him when she needed something or she made it seem like there was something wrong. She even called at 2 or 3 in the morning to tell him that her stomach hurt...and she was supposedly "engaged" and had a roommate....!!! Now, why in the world would anyone do that? I'll tell you why..because she likes to play the victim and wants someone to come and rescue her!! She has pushed all of my buttons, and I'm a pretty patient person. If you have ever been hurt before you are very cautious about everything. You have to put yourself in the other person's shoe and take into account how she feels about your history...and also would you like it if your boyfriend had the same relationship with an ex? It depends on your situation with the ex and what your history was like. I'm sorry, but I think it's selfish for you not to understand...and you also have to take into account that he has a choice in the matter as well, and from here it looks like he has already made his decision. She's not forcing him...he made that choice to still be with her without you in the picture...

I am too old to be playing little childish games with anyone...and I made that clear to my boyfriend and I said that he needed to make decision and to make sure it was what HE WANTED...and I'm still with him....

I hope you can find a solution that is best suited for your situation.

Let's just say this:

No one is putting a gun to his head to stop talking to you. She probably gives him an ultimatum or whatnot, and HE chose to stop talking to you because..obviously, she's his gf, and currently she has such huge influence in his life. But it's still HIM who decides not her.

Why do you want to keep on being friends with someone who's not willing to go the 'distance' to keep you as one anyway? You're so ready to go the distance and he just decided to just not talk to you anymore. Talking to her (the gf) will not matter much, if anything...if I were her, I'd probably be even more suspect that you hold stronger feeling than what you've claimed.

You should get new friends and move on from this incident. He's not worth it as a friend. Good luck.

The only time this happened to me, it was because the guy still had feelings for me and the new girlfriend could tell. So, while you may be fine just being friends, the girlfriend can obviously sense that he's more into you than you know.

It might be worth it to just back off. If you want to maintain contact, an email every few weeks to check in might be acceptable, but otherwise, you're the ex, sweetie, and a lot of women are just not cool with that. Many women are not comfortable with their significant other(s) being close with their ex - and even though you're just friends now, you're still an ex.

It's his choice, it doesn't matter what she says or does, he's choosing to do this. if they breakup, i suggest you aren't too welcoming with any kind of friendship. Feeding someone's insecurity seldomly solves a problem.