So last august I met a really wonderful guy. We started off dating and eventually we had sex (I was a virgin and yes I know too soon but I cant change time) and everything went great for a while, then around December things changed. We had a talk and he confessed to me that he didn't feel that "spark" and thought we should just be friends. I challenged him and demanded to know why he couldn't see us together and he told me that there were many factors. Among them were my culture, education, career, political views, the fact that I'm not as passionate about video games as he is and a couple more. I'm 19 and he is 25, obviously I'm not as educated and advanced in my career as him. I have a full time job at a bank (for 3 yrs) and I'm attending college full time as well, not to mention that I make more money than most people who already have their college degrees. Well needless to say that these reasons hurt me like hell, but I decided to remain friends with him because by that time I had fallen in love with him (true love, not because he was my first everything). On new yrs day we agreed to try to make things work but he told me that if someone came along and he felt that spark he would go after them. Well on Jan 2nd a girl winked at him on Match.com and he became very interested in her. She apparently had everything I couldn't offer him (educated, very good job, same ethnicity, etc). He told me about her and I gave him permission to see where that went because I know that otherwise he was going to regret not having tried with her. Throughout all this we continued having sex and 3 weeks ago I had a miscarriage with our baby. I didn't tell him at first because I was unsure I had miscarried. I told him my fears about my possible miscarriage and he was there with me all the way. We ended up spending that weekend together and his attitude was completely different from the one I was used to. He opened up to me, told me about his plans for the future, what he actually thought about me (thought, not felt), he showed me he cared and so much more. Once the weekend was over he started sending me messages everyday checking up on me and when I asked him about the girl from Match he said he wasn't too sure about her anymore. I asked him what had changed and told me that after I left for the weekend she invited him over to study and when he got home he started comparing the two of us. He was confused in what he felt for us. Apparently he really couldn't figure out why he could see himself dating her and not me. Since then he has told me that I do have everything he is looking in a girl but by this time he had already a date set up with the girl and said he felt bad cancelling it. Their date was supposed to be on Valentines day but due to his work he was unable to make it, instead we spent Valentines day together and took Friday off and literally spent the rest of the weekend together as a happy couple. So on Monday night he gets a text from her asking him if hes mad at her and he told her no. She doesn't know I even exist. I asked him yesterday if he still plans on going on a date with her and he said not a date but having dinner and that he has to as he feels he owes it to her. He also told me that after the wonderful weekend we spent together I had no reason to feel jealous. So my question is this ladies.....is this acceptable? If he decides he wants to be with me, should I take him back? Also, what should I do about him still wanting to have dinner with the other girl, should I confront him or what?

Please be nice....

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