I wish my love life were like how they sang in the song "I don't wanna miss a thing". But unfortunately, here's the reality. My boyfriend used to be a mess, he was never sure with girls, played around, cheated on me twice, but now he's better in that department. Also, he grew up with an irresponsible mom and a bratty sister. His mom never took care of him, never cooked a meal, didn't know his favorite food or shirt size, never paid for anything; his sister is just the average bratty teenager. So I understand that he's deprived of love in his childhood and then doesn't quite know how to care for someone else. I grew up in a loving family, both parents love me so much and I love them back. I know when and how to take of a person, how to cater to his/her needs, how to help friends or family. My boyfriend and I live together, and ever since we moved out of the first few months of fresh-dating process when we were both on best behavior, things are different. He used to pay attention to detail and made the first dates really great. Now it's starting to feel like he's taking me for granted. Whenever he forgets to do something, he screams at me for "forgetting to remind" him. If I bought the wrong kind of cheese he likes after getting the wrong kind the first time, he shakes his head and calls me an "incompetent" b****. If I can't go out and do what he wants for the night because of too much work, he calls me boring. This is all the same attitude that he gives to his mother.

The truth is that I do my best because I love him. I learned how to make his favorite food and I pick out the best clothes for him, make sure I do his laundry in the right piles, wash out shirt stains right away, and help him through everything I can. Sometimes I mess up, of course, but I never thought I'd deserve that kind of treatment. My boyfriend, in return, almost never does anything appreciative or loving. In order for him to show a little effort like washing the dishes before I come home to make dinner, we have to have a big fight with me crying brokenhearted. When he makes a big gesture and fixes something around the house, I have to stand there and help him or he'll say that I'm being a lazy b****. And that best behavior goes away 2 days after the fight. I suggested that he take me to dinner as appreciation or anniversary gift, he complains that he's too poor. But if he wants to eat out, he even makes me pay for the meal and end up paying me back months later, when he owes me a few hundred dollars. Even if when I get upset over his cheating past, he would impatiently tell me to "get over it". He actually cheated on me and dumped me on Valentine's Day last year ( that was the first time).

I love him and every time when my girl friends convince me to leave him, I couldn't make myself to. He tells me that he loves me and he's trying to change for the better, but I haven't seen any results. Is this really who he truly is? How can I change his attitude? Does he really love me?

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