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Where should I go for Thanksgiving? Am I the Worst Person Ever? Nov 20, 2009 11:15 AM Ok, so here's the deal. Every year my family goes to my grandparents' house for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Im normally a very shy person and it's hard for me to make friends, so I've only ever been to Thanksgiving at someone else's house once. However this year, two things happened: I finally made a close friend, and my friend's parents have invited me to spend Thanksgiving at their house; and my grandfather got sick and had to have a mass removed from his lung. His prognosis is very good for a man in his 80s - they haven't even brought up "timelines" or anything like that, so they don't think he's going to die within the next few years at least. I really really want to go to Thanksgiving with my friend and have a great time, but I don't know if I'll be the worst person ever for doing it since my grandpa got sick. My aunt and uncle have been prodding me too and telling me I need to go to Thanksgiving this year, but I know Thanksgiving will be exactly the same as it is every year, and I'll see my grandparents at Christmas anyway. Am I the worst person ever for wanting to go to my friend's house? Where should I go for Thanksgiving? Thanks for the advice! :)
My father is unbearable and I can't get away Nov 20, 2009 9:29 AM This year has been rough for my family. My parents decided to up and leave their California home to move across the country--after quitting their jobs and realizing their new home was not for them they moved back only to lose money, a house, and are jobless in this economy. Myself included in this brought me to live with them again as I was away at school until budget cuts ceased my opportunity to stay there. To save money I am staying with them in a apartment until their purchased home closes. My Dad is an alcoholic, he is an angry person and lies about a lot. Lately he has been completely out of control, going off on innocent people around us, being outlandish, verbally abusive, rambling to himself and making it unbearable for my brother and Mom. He says he doesn't drink anymore (REFUSES HELP because he "doesn't have a problem") which is hard to believe as he often disappears and comes back sounding strange. I am an adult and not stupid. I try to bite my tongue but living in such small quarters is so hard with his negativity and lack of care for others. When I confront him about his rude behavior he tells me to leave and he's doing nothing wrong. My mom tries too but he just gets even more angry and thinks everyone is out to get him and that we are the problem. So he then decides to leave and act immature by claiming he will sleep in his car and what not. He also has prescribed depression pills but he often refuses to take them. Instead he drinks several diet sodas and is jittery all day and awake all night. I think the caffeine has turned him into a monster. I can't afford therapy...and I can't leave because of my financial situation. It was glorious living on my own but I need to save my money until I can get done with school. I just don't know where to put my head or what to do with him.
How would you feel? Nov 20, 2009 8:06 AM I'm 20 years old and have been dating this guy for 4 years.   Last night, I was using his computer and I saw that he searched for plus size lingerie. My feelings were instantly hurt. I felt so fat! I think that my boyfriend should not make me feel like that! He has never called me fat or anything, but just the fact that he looked at PLUS SIZE lingerie says that he THINKS it! If I ask him if he thinks I'm fat or anything he, of course, denies it. He says that if he thought I was ugly he wouldn't be with me. SOOOO....what now? Am I just overreacting? I am so HURT!
Will he or won't he? Nov 20, 2009 6:09 AM We have been a couple for almost three years. We have lived together for two years. We have a daughter together. Yet, still no signs of marriage? It really started to bother me last week. We were at a family function and one of his parents friends came over to us. Their friend, introduced him, his daughter, and myself, his "friend". So like, um, seriously, just "friend"? I wash his laundry, cook his meals, raise our child, sleep with him, etc., but I am being intoduced as his "friend" by others. He laughed about it, I expressed how bothered I was by the comment. He asked well how should she have introduced you? My response, at the very least "his daughters mom"? The lady made it seem like I was not her mom, just a random friend. She knows who I am and what our relationship is. We both come from very traditional lifestyle orianted families. I get snide looks, random comments, and pity when ever our status is brought up. He has vowed full commitment to me, and I to him, on the other hand he says marriage is just a piece of paper! I disagree. We have both been married before. So clearly at some point, it wasn't just a piece of paper? On cards, gifts, letter's, he always signs it with his first name my first name then his last name? I am so confused. Is it his engineer mind, being a cancer, is their just some sort of communication barrier I am not reading right or seeing through?
Waxing problem Nov 20, 2009 12:16 AM Hi Hope I can get some good advice here. I'm going on holiday next week and last night I waxed a few hairs off my tummy, call it peach fuzz if you like.  It's a little dark in colour and I'm so white which is why I did it. Now I've got tiny little red spots on the places I waxed. I'm glad I did this a week before our holiday cos I think it will clear up by then. What can I do to soothe the redness on my skin. I probably waxed on very sensitive part of my skin. Another problem I'm concerned about is I have made an appointment to get my legs and underarms waxed. I've never done this before and I'm so worried I have the same problem. Perhaps it is because I am not a professional but I used these tiny wax strips and it wasn't that difficult to get rid of the hair because it's so fine. Any help please? I don't wanna go on holiday with red blotches all over my legs. My appointment is next week, one day before we leave on holidays

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